After just finishing up a challenging semester in grad school (and aren’t they all challenging, really?), I’m giving myself this week off! I worked really hard to make time for some much-needed rest and relaxation, and this time I’m really, really going to do it. Stop laughing, I’m serious!
See, usually, I *say* I’m going to take the week off and then I book every single day with as much as I can fit in. I call it the “funnel effect,” and I’m betting you’re familiar with it. It happens when I have so many things on my “to do” list that I can’t possibly get them done in a day, so they accumulate until I can’t get them done in a week, and on it goes (until I “declutter” my “to do” list, but I’ve already blogged about that).
So when I stop to take a break from school, all the miscellaneous stuff that hasn’t gotten done over the semester funnels right into the space I’ve created in my schedule, until I’m completely overwhelmed again! So, maybe it’s household stuff, and sure, that needs to get done. Maybe it’s time with friends, and absolutely, I love spending time with my friends! Maybe it’s working on my blog, which I enjoy, or tending to some marketing matters for my small business(es) I’d like to grow, and that’s legitimate and helpful to our household. I’m betting you can relate to the funnel effect, am I right?
But wait . . .
If all that stuff has waited for the last sixteen or seventeen weeks, I’m left wondering . . . why do I try to squeeze it all into the time off that I’ve worked so hard to carve out?! Maybe it’s important, but it’s obviously not urgent or it would probably not still be on my “to do” list, right? Some things have been put off during the school term BECAUSE THEY CAN BE PUT OFF. So that means they don’t all have to get done on my break, either.
I’ve capped off the funnel this time! I set a small amount of time aside to visit with a couple of friends, I have a work-related project I really do want to accomplish this week, and I’m going to dust our apartment and clean one particular window that’s driving me nuts. Otherwise, I have a novel I’ve been trying to read for over a year (did I mention that I’m in grad school?) and I *will* finish it on my break, on our balcony, with a cup of tea, possibly in my bathrobe.
I will spend precious time in my studio making beautiful things – some for sale, but much will be for our home and for gifting – because that makes my heart happy, and because engaging the creative part of my brain is an excellent way to de-stress (studies prove it!). I’ll practice yoga, spend some extra time in prayer and meditation, and do whatever else rejuvenates me, but I’m *not* adding anything new to my calendar or my “to do” list. In fact, I intentionally scheduled one day with absolutely NOTHING on the calendar or the to-do list, and I may turn it into a prayer and meditation day (super rejuvenating!)
I’m determined to feel like I took a break. I can do it. But since I already know this, the reason I’m posting it publicly is to remind you that you can, too! Someone recently mentioned that every weekend leaves her feeling like she needs another weekend to recover from it. We’ve all said that, probably.
Busyness is largely a choice, and often is a symptom of weak boundaries. I know, I know, that sounds harsh. And it hurts when I have to say it to myself, too. But it’s the raw truth. So, go ahead and give yourself a break – all the cool kids are doing it!
So to that end, my faithful followers, I am wrapping up this post and I’m going to head to the studio! Shalom!
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